Does it really matter if you get hundreds of men that will poke you or even message you on your online dating profile if most of them put the “L” in LOSER? I mean really, do numbers even matter? Most women decide to try online dating because they want to meet a quality guy and not like many of the buttholes they’ve met in times past. I don’t know about you but I’d take quality over quantity any day. Who really wants to spend time sitting in front of computer sifting through mounds of request from men that for one reason or another you wouldn’t give a time of day if you were to meet them out on the street.
Majority of women would hope to find a quality man online but sometimes it doesn’t work out that way. One prime example comes from J.B., 30 of San Antonio Texas who began online dating in 2005. She signed up to six sites based on their reviews and word of mouth from others (Match.com, EHarmony, OKCupid, Christian Mingle, PlentyofFish, and MarryWell.) Online dating sounded like a good idea at the time” she explains.
But those feelings have since changed. J.B. met a guy online and after getting to know him via phone they both decided to meet for coffee. It wouldn’t take long for her to realize that she wasn’t dealing with a quality guy after all. His first strike came when he arrived at the coffee shop, looking nothing like his profile picture. The number one rule for online dating is to post pictures that look like you now and not when you were a freshman in high school or of someone you wished you looked like. Despite his first strike she continued on with the date. However the straw that broke the camel’s back came when he started making negative comments about the coffee shop they were at and the food she ordered.
When asked how her online dating experience has been J.B. answered “it’s been terrible”. In fact she ceased all of her online dating communication just a few months ago. J.B. is no longer an advocate for online dating and in fact wouldn’t recommend it to others. Although she doesn’t knock that some women have been and continue to be successful with finding quality men online as for her she chooses to take her chances by sticking with meeting men the traditional way, face to face. When asked what piece of advice she would give others contemplating online dating, J.B. strongly advises others if they can afford to, spend their money using a professional matchmaker instead.
Have you met someone thinking he was a quality only to find out later he was a total loser?